Nature vs. Nurture and Porn Names...

KYLE:

So I'm going to start in response to the question posed by Jess.  "What would I say to a mother who thinks homosexuality is a choice?"

I personally don't believe it's a choice.  To quote someone very close to me when they told me they were gay, "Why would anyone choose to make their life that much harder?"  Which is something that really stuck with me on my own journey, when I was dealing with my own coming out and accepting who I was.  I have read a lot about the subject about genetics and "nature vs. nurture," which is definitely an interesting subject.  I am of the thought that there is no nature VS nurture in this subject, but rather nature AND nurture.  I believe that I was born the way I am and it's nobody's fault and there is nothing wrong with me, being the nature part of it.  The nurture part of things is a little more complicated.  There is definitely something in the way that people are brought up that allows them to deal with their sexuality differently.  With society becoming more and more progressive and accepting (I hate that word but it's true) young adolescents are learning to deal with their feelings earlier and, as a result, healthier.  It's not like it was fifty years ago when men were suppose to find a good woman, get a job, settle down and support their wife and family.  While women went to school to find a good husband then, once they found a keeper, become a housewife and raise the kids.  So I guess what I am trying to say is, I believe that you are born gay or straight but the way you deal with it and accept who you are is a direct result of the way you were nurtured.  

I think that his mother should be very proud of her daughter for being brave enough to accept who she really is and stand up and say she is a little different, her life is going to be harder but this is who I am and this is what is going to make me happy.  Her mom should be proud because in the long run, she is the one who gave her daughter the strength to do that.  

Food for thought of the day:  So like three times in the past two days coming up with your porn has come up in my everyday life.  There was a survey on facebook, and then last night while Bill and I were watching Desperate Housewives and then today on an episode of Six Feet Under (yes I'm a little obsessed).  Isn't that weird though?  In case you don't know, it's the name of your first pet and the name of the street you grew up on, mine is Bingo Mitchell.  Has that ever happened to you?  You go your whole life without hearing a word or phrase like that and then if comes up 3 times in 2 days?  

EDIT:  The porn name thing came up again yesterday while my friends and I were on the train going to class.  4 time in 3 days!